Today, Samantha and I were watching videos I shot of her when she was a baby. It is always fun to look back and enjoy those moments forever frozen on the video tape.
One segment struck Samantha as funny; Sam named it “What Rhymes With Duck?”
https://youtu.be/Khd-LZTomxM (click the link and then click the link below this link.)
As we watched this video over and over again, we realized that what we were looking at was not a funny video, but a snapshot of Eva, Sam’s Mom, and my wife of forty years, when Eva was thirty-eight. What struck us was how young Eva looked. Her smile radiated happiness. She truly loved being with her daughter and sharing a few moments opening Samantha’s birthday present.
We watched the video and realized this was before Eva had wrinkles, or grey hair. She has just come home from teaching school. Her smile is so warm; she smiles so readily even after she frowns at her husband’s inane implication about the rhyming of “duck.”
This was a time of great joy for Eva. Teaching was going very well for her. She had a baby to come home to every day after work. The baby adored her Mother. Her husband was keeping the house in shape and cooking and keeping the baby entertained during the day. What more could you ask for?
We didn’t know it then, but if we could have asked for anything, we probably would have asked to live in that moment (remain young and beautiful) forever. But like the quote says, you don’t control time.
Everything changes. Samantha grew noticeably brighter every day, Eva and I grew a little more each day; we didn’t notice the slow transition for another twenty years. Life got better for us every day, every year. While we weren’t looking, time changed; we changed.
Samantha and I look at Eva in this video and we love her as she was. We love her as she is. We thought we had time. We don’t. Soon, we will have to love Eva only as she was. She will no longer be with us. Are we sad? Yes. Can we be happy again? Samantha and I find great pleasure watching Eva find joy in teaching Samantha words and rhymes. Teaching is Eva’s greatest joy in life. It is just a brief moment in time, but it reminds us of how innocent and how happy we were to live in that moment. The moment.
I remind myself to focus on each breath, each moment: it is the only time we have together.
5 thoughts on “The trouble is, you think you have time.”
It goes SO fast! Mostly because it’s so difficult to remain in the moment we are in. Very nice, Jeff!
Ha! The look she gave you when you asked “what rhymes with duck?”! That was funny!
A cute little video. Fun to watch. True, who asks “what rhymes with duck?” I enjoyed reading this post. Makes you pause and think.
I do wonder how many times in your life Eva gave you ‘ that look” – probably a few. If growing older teaches us anything, I think at the least it is that life does go by so quickly and I know I truly am surprised how old I am, so soon! I have lost many loved ones and friends along the way, some my age, some much younger and I know that ” there but for the grace of God go I” so I try to be much more appreciative of every minute. You live well Jeff- you have all this time with Eva and you will continue to live well with her loving memories. We who you share your thoughts with are enriched by them, thank you for your writing.
…… but always remember life is not the amount of breaths you take. It’s the moments that take your breath away
Love to you and Sam! Continue to live the good life.